On some sites, the person also knows that you deleted it.Say that you’re in the middle of an Instant Messaging (IM) exchange, and you realize that the prospect just isn’t a match. And for the record, the inappropriate actions are Regarding those first two actions, your prospect would probably think you had computer problems and keep trying to reach you, which isn’t what you want. And regarding the porno action, sending pornographic material can be construed as harassment and get you into a heap of legal trouble.• Rejection sensitivity, conscientiousness, and gender predictive of above behaviors.Although prior research has examined how individual difference factors are related to relationship initiation and formation over the Internet (e.g., online dating sites, social networking sites), little research has examined how dispositional factors are related to other aspects of online dating.Granted, for some people, a more heavy-handed approach is necessary. Polite is good, but if it doesn’t work, try sterner and firmer. If you need further coaching, go to your local electric company’s customer service department and see how it handles you when you try to dispute a bill by saying, “I never used that electricity.” Many appropriate ways are available to encourage someone to move along. This article points out the major ways to do so in specific situations.
Notice that the word is common, not polite or considerate.When someone just won’t quit bothering you and all else fails, you have to dispense with being polite.Just as dogs get only one bite (actually, they don’t get any free bites), your discouraged suitor gets only one “apology” from you. The following line is pretty darn effective but only use it as a last resort:“You need to know that if you attempt to contact me again, I’ll report your activities as an abuse to the dating site.You need to know how to dish out rejection in an appropriate way.As with real life, you must do it quickly — and with a modicum of kindness, if possible.• Rejection sensitive individuals more likely to use online dating sites.