Should the relationship evolve, there will be plenty of time to get into weighty topics. When a person reveals too much too soon, it can give a false sense of intimacy.
In reality, premature or exaggerated revelations are due more to boundary issues, unresolved pain, or self-centeredness than true intimacy. Maybe your first date questions will lead you to discover that this person is your soul mate—or maybe not.
You meet up with someone to make small talk for a few hours hoping to convince them that you are a fascinating, charming person.
Secretly, you are hoping to discover the same about them.
Biggest clue of all: The salad course is punctuated by strained silence and forced small talk. Before we get to those, let’s review a few general guidelines for dating discourse: Listen as much or more than you talk.
I have dedicated my life to helping women create more self-love and confidence, which is extremely important in dating.
Below is a list of 84 conversation and thought provoking questions to create real connection and help you in your quest for true love.
It’s always exciting to meet new people, especially hot girls that you either want to date or maybe even marry some day! If you like to hike and go skydiving, but she’s not a nature lover or risk taker… #12 If you could trade places with anyone in the world, who would it be and why? If you’re just looking for a hookup, but she’s only a long-term relationship gal, then you might be out of luck. It’s probably even more important to ask her why and how this person had so much influence on her. Would she donate it to charity and feed the homeless? [Read: 20 funny questions to ask a girl and leave her ROFL] #31 What’s your biggest pet peeve? Well, you may not want to know this one just in case she asks you for a “free pass” someday. Is she an intellectual or someone who despises hitting the books? People say to stay away from this one, but if she’s an atheist and you’re a devout Christian, then it’s best to know right away.
Okay, let’s not get ahead of ourselves with the marriage thing quite yet. But you know you like her, and you don’t want to blow it. This gives you a clue as to whether she’s happy with her life or not. Well, this will tell you whether or not you have any chance with her at all. You can de-personalize this one and not ask about yourself specifically… [Read: 40 questions to ask your crush to subtly flirt with them] #16 What’s the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you? This might give you a clue about whether or not she has some narcissistic tendencies or if she really likes a lot of attention. Pay close attention to this one so that you can avoid doing whatever bugs her. [Read: 60 get-to-know-you questions for a potential romance] Meeting someone new is exciting, but it can be scary too if you don’t know what to talk about.
Either way, it’s exciting to be able to get to know another human being and get a peek into his or her world.