Think about all the common sense rules and regulations that go along with friends deciding to hook up and eventually smashing: – The beforehand confidentiality agreement – The NO Feelings catching allowed agreement (underscored with the Stay Emotionally Stable addendum) – The after-sex restatement of the prior-acknowledged confidentiality agreement – The ‘Don’t Act Brand New’ statute Now think about how these rules are flagrantly violated, ignored and disrespected by people you call your “friends” due to their own ignorance, stubbornness, stupidity, deceitfulness, jealousy, callousness, or any other negative characteristic that you were previously unaware of.I’m not locking you off because of the SEX [even if it’s NOT mind-blowing] but I’m locking you off because you did some STUPID -SH*T beforehand like break the confidentiality agreement and told all your friends we were gonna get it in, in which case I can’t TRUST you, and that is what killed our friendship.Stop trying to blame SEX as the reason your friendship can come to an end, when the reality is the events around the sex just revealed sh*t about your character that makes you LESS attractive of a friend.I see a lot of guys complain that they get friend-zoned when a girl says she doesn't want to date them because it will ruin their friendship. He is infamous among his friends for being a player.And making that point starts with one very simple assertion: Friends having sex will NOT ruin our friendship, it will just quickly expose an inherent fault in our friendship that we both were previously unaware of.99% of times it’s not the SEX that makes you never want to see or hang out with that person again, Sex is a friendship accelerant.
because he no longer wants me, because we have history, because I'm just baggage. It makes me feel like I never want to date again, because if things don't work out, it seems like I can never be friends with them. I don't even get to be his friend, because I was his gf. The people who will stay in your life are worth your time. I am going to assume you are quite young for a 3 month relationship to affect you so deeply. vertical sky, this pattern of thinking you have is self destructive. I used to want to maintain friendships with all my exes, then I realised something. What you need to accept is that people come in and out of your life for whatever reasons. However, time after time, unfaithful partners say ‘I don’t know’ or come up with such general answers that their partner gets exasperated, angry and fear for the future of their relationship.“If you can’t tell me that, what hope is there for our marriage?Sorry about your situation, but he doesn't sound like a kind of person you'd want to be friends with, anyway. Not everyone is going to like you, and that's okay. vertical sky, this pattern of thinking you have is self destructive. I used to want to maintain friendships with all my exes, then I realised something. What you need to accept is that people come in and out of your life for whatever reasons.