"It's important to engage your village, friends, family who can support you with time-sharing and babysitting," Zane says.Parents who have a shared custody agreement may have evenings without the kids that they can use to schedule dates. You fill out a profile and it matches you with other like-minded mothers in your area." A potential friend and someone to swap babysitting with? Dating has changed since you were single, and so have you.No date likes to be surprised by that info later on.Other than that, she says, save the details about your children, your custody arrangements, your divorce, and your ex for when you know the person better.Since hitting the bars is out, start by "dating" for friends, Baumgartner suggests.
"Perhaps a better question than when is why," says Christine Baumgartner, relationship coach at The Perfect Catch. Expecting dating to fulfill all your needs is unrealistic and might attract (or cause you to accept) people who aren't right for you."In my coaching practice, I suggest that single moms do the inside work to get really clear about their wants, needs, values and beliefs and get in touch with their intuition," says Kerri Zane, single-mom lifestyle expert and author of It Takes All 5: A Single Mom's Guide to Finding the Real One.Once you've decided that you're ready to date, it might feel impossible to find the time. It’s because I did exactly what experts recommend: take it slow, not force a new guy on the kids and follow their lead. We were hiking through Cranbrook on a sunny Saturday and I squirmed as he spoke the words. So you can imagine my surprise that they’re ready to create our own version of the before I am.No matter what the age of the child, avoid a detailed account of why you broke up.