But when it comes to your turn, he’s less than enthusiastic about returning the favor.
To quote Samantha Jones, “Honey, they don’t call it a job for nothing.” And that’s exactly how you’re starting to feel – sex with him is a job.
“Maybe her biggest turn-on is to see herself dominate a naïve man—heady stuff!
But as soon as he started to have opinions and demand certain acts, the power balance shifted—she became the slave rather than the master; the responder, rather than the initiator.
You don’t want to break up or get your sexual needs met elsewhere, so what do you do?
Sex is a natural part of life and a basic human need to express sexuality.
When we have an no-strings-attached hookup, for example, we may only be interested in fulfilling our desire for physical pleasure, while sex with our boyfriend could be less about the physical pleasure and more about the emotional connection formed during the act.
Needing advice about a “selfish lover” seemed to hit a nerve with people—and lots offered empathy and tips.
Let your boyfriend know what that pleasure looks and feels like to you, and then listen carefully to how it looks and feels to him.
Who knows, perhaps the sex will transform into something better than either of you could have imagined!
Through sex, we express pleasure, intimacy, emotions, vulnerability and connection.
Some people choose to experience all of these during a sexual act, while others are only concerned with one or two of them.
And, more importantly, it will break down even more barriers between you two and create more intimacy as each of you become more comfortable with being vulnerable and communicating what you truly need.